It’s been a bumpy path recently.


On the one hand, exciting new projects and opportunities —a total change of direction.

But accompanied by big transitions on a physical, mental and even spiritual level.

There are days when I feel fantastic – inspired, engaged, connected and creative.

And other days when I am sleep deprived and despondent.


So I took a question into meditation What do I need to do to feel good right now?”

I’m not sure what answer I expected from my inner guidance. But the one I got baffled me. The response was “say yes”!




“So let me get this right”, I thought — I’m feeling disconnected and overwhelmed and yet the solution that’s in my highest and best interests is to say yes to more?!

My initial response was, “No way, I’m not doing that”.

And that is when I felt the resistance flooding my body. It was like lead seeping through my veins — heavy and icky.

Saying “no” was clearly not the path to tranquility.

Why was that?


I was reminded of a video I watched about dealing with panic attacks (you can watch it here).

Regardless of how effective you think this would be during a full blown panic attack, it does validate an important idea.

What we resist persists.

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It’s the resistance that fuels the flames and keeps us suffering. When we say yes, we release the resistance.

In assertiveness training, it is taught that we should say no. That’s a good thing. Boundaries are a good thing.

The trouble with passive or submissive behavior is that you are saying “yes” when you mean “no”. Your body knows it. That is why it feels so awful. You are in conflict.


There are still going to be situations where saying no is most definitely the right thing to do.

But what if there are times when you are saying “no” when a “yes” might be in your highest and best interests. Choosing “no” is to choose resistance.

You may need to say “yes” —even if for a little while. Saying yes to things that you have no real control over in the moment it occurs— insomnia, illness, heartbreak or grief, for example.


The “no” makes things worse. The “no” takes you into resistance.

Feeling overwhelmed — say “yes”

Feeling emotional — say “yes”

Feeling exhausted — say “yes”

And feel better through the release of resistance.

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Oh and of course you can say yes to all the good stuff to.

Yes to happiness.

Yes to love.

Yes to appreciation.

Yes to inspiration.

From today, I will choose my “nos” with conscious awareness. I release the resistance.

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